Work with Me

Yes, I have a few slots open right now!

Note: This page is about my one-on-one counseling services. I also have a weekly DBT skills group, which is quite different: lower cost, less intense, and conducted as a class in my office. See my DBT skills group page.

Who works with me?

Most of the people I work with have some things in common: They’re smart and they feel an ache inside.

This is a picture of part of my office. It's very living-room like!
This is a picture of part of my office. It’s very living-room like

Many of my clients are successful professionals whose biggest difficulties are in close relationships. I’ve had clients who are business owners, nurses, scientists, doctors, lawyers, teachers, massage therapists, healing professionals, and, of course, professors and grad students.  Most look as if they’re feeling and doing fine. And yet, they experience deep pain in close relationships, have difficulty with feeling connected to themselves and to others, and often give to others but have a hard time finding their own voice and their own needs.

 

These are people who have had a good deal of success in their life, but who have areas of long standing areas of pain, struggle, and who may feel empty or alone in spite of everything.

“What can we accomplish together?”

I believe that therapy is more than just finding coping strategies, more than making your problems endurable. All human beings are hardwired for healing and connection.  I aim to help you to find deep resolution and deep connection.

We’re likely to be a great match if:

  • You’ve read some of my writing and watched a video, and felt like this could be a good match. (New clients tell me all the time that I’m exactly how I am in videos in person, except, of course, that my responses are much more personalized!)
  • You’ve enjoyed other therapies, but are looking for something a bit different from what you’ve already done.
  • You’re highly sensitive and want someone who gets that piece of the puzzle.
  • Past counselors have offered you cognitive strategies or reflective listening, and you’d like something that is a bit more interactive.
  • You’re in a good position in your life to make time for in-depth counseling. You can attend sessions most weeks, and you can pay for therapy on an ongoing basis.
  • You’ve felt like some of your biggest feelings or issues were overlooked in other therapies.
  • You felt like your smarts had to stay out of the room in other therapies, and the encouragement to simply talk and feel didn’t quite address your intellect.
  • OR the opposite: Your other counselors were TOO focused on your thoughts and didn’t guide you into more deeply felt experiences.
  • You have feelings and behaviors that bewilder you, and you want to learn about those and find new ways through those moments. You’re hoping for a therapy that can reach places of pain that you maybe haven’t had lots of words for, or that words and insight alone just didn’t really reach.

You should know that not everyone is a match for my services. In fairness to you, I want you to be able to tell if this won’t be a fit.

I won’t be quite the right fit for you if:

  • You’re in need of very quick solutions that “don’t go too deep or take too long.”
  • You’re currently in need of  a counselor who takes your insurance or offers low fees.  (To find someone like that, go to Psychology Today and look up counselors who take your insurance or who take low fee clients.)
  • You want to do  the talking, while the therapist’s job is to “just listen.”
  • You prefer to  schedule sessions intermittently, on an “as-needed” basis. I schedule weekly sessions.
  • Someone else (but not you) thinks you should work with me, but you’re opposed.  If you’re on the fence or don’t know much about me yet, please take a look around my webpage and sense if this feels like a fit for you. Many of my clients come to me by referral, and it usually works great – but I always emphasize that it’s you who gets to decide if this feels like a fit for you. Because counseling works so much better when we feel we’re seeing someone by our choice.

“What’s your fee?”

To simplify the process, save time, and help us to both establish a routine of working together,  I bill by the month. My monthly fee is $595, which shakes out to an hourly rate of $138 an hour. My clients set up a monthly subscription (using PayPal, or a debit, credit, or rewards card). This allows us to spend 100% of our session time on therapy.

I don’t take insurance, which has its pros and cons: on the upside, we get to decide together how this work progresses without having to be concerned with insurance companies, authorization, or needing to get an external party’s say-so in order to continue with your work with me. If you can afford therapy out of pocket, it can afford you more freedoms, like getting to pick your own person or team without regard to plans taken.

If you’re looking for something lower cost, at least at first, or want some simple skills and support, my DBT skills class costs just $60 per session.

“I’m ready to see you!”

Great! Just follow the steps below to schedule and pay for your initial session ($140). After you schedule, pay, and fill out my question form online, I’ll confirm our appointment, and we’ll see each other soon!

Three steps to seeing me in person:

1. Fill out my brief “getting to know you” form. 

Help Me Get To Know You

2. Schedule your initial session, using the form below. Be sure to specify correctly if this will be in-person or online!

3. Show up at the appointed time! (Online or in person.)My office is at 260 SW Madison Ave, Suite 104-5, in Corvallis.

My phone number is (541)224-6732.

I’m looking forward to meeting with you!