My go-to methods:
- Sensorimotor Psychotherapy: My training in Sensorimotor Psychotherapy helps us to listen not just to your words, but to your body. Our bodies offer powerful wisdom and information, and often, when we pay attention to some way that your posture aligns when you think about something good, or the way your breathing constricts when you feel stressed, we’re able to learn and transform patterns in a deeper words than words and emotions alone. Working in this way often helps clients to feel more stable, more energized, and more connected with themselves and others. Rather than “just talking about it” or “just venting and being heard,” or even being given cognitive strategies, we work through new experiences that we help you to find in the office. For example, a client who struggles in her connections with others might learn something new by noticing what happens when we look each other in the eyes, and what happens when she allows herself to break eye contact. Sometimes we work with physically feeling a sense of a boundary, which we can do with pillows, blankets, energy, or words like, “This is my space.”
This kind of work brings emotion, insight, and healing in often unexpected ways. We get to learn together, in a playful curious way, about your story and about what helps you to feel safe and connected. (I’m trained in level 1 of SP, which is all about learning to listen to the body and learning to work through trauma and the ways the body holds onto that.)
- Relational work: This way of thinking and relating impacts my work most strongly, and I get ongoing peer consultation/supervision from an AEDP group online. AEDP is all about building a strong relationship between us, one that is genuine and that feels good. We get to experience what it’s like to be connecting, and what it’s like to empathically notice moments of disconnect. I find this type of work refreshing because, as a therapist, I get to bring my whole self to our connection. There’s a difference between hearing, “And how does that make you feel,” and “Oooh — *I* feel a pang as I hear you describe that. How sad……” This work lets us join together and counter shame through a connection where you feel understood, met, and can really feel and see how your feelings and words impact another person. When we can feel “gotten” by a therapist and like we really truly matter, all kinds of things start changing, and we tend to connect more immediately with emotions in ways that are profoundly helpful. The liveliness and connection clients and I share lead us to deep places and important realizations.
- Holistic Thinking: Often, clients are pleasantly surprised to find their spirituality welcomed into the therapy. Some of my clients are deep thinkers, who very much want to understand more about themselves, from multiple perspectives. So sessions with me go in directions that sometimes surprise us both, and we get to explore reasons, and we get to explore feelings or beliefs that don’t always have words attached. Sometimes clients share poems, songs, pictures (that they made themselves or that really resonate with them), and even bits of philosophy. As we work together, we work to honor all the ways you think, feel, and connect, and clients often sense more connection within themselves over time and more understanding of their own life history as we blend feeling, emotion, poetry, and whatever else emerges!
- Honoring the different parts of you. A family therapist, Richard Schwartz, realized that many people have inner conflicts and parts within that have conflicting feelings, needs, and fears. By working with these different parts, we make sure that every part of you is honored. Very often, a part of you may want to share deep feelings, and another part may have learned to protect you from feeling too much. Or you may want to feel better, but every time you do, another part of you seems to sabotage. We can meet all of these struggles by getting to know the different sides of you, and helping you to shift from one part to another with more choice, and helping every part of you to feel seen and cared for.
- Education/Thinking out loud together – Most problems and symptoms my clients have are perfectly natural once we understand them in context. Knowledge helps to reduce shame and self-judgment, and evokes curiosity and hope. My clients often say things like, “Oh, so I’m not crazy” after we look at some ways things may be happening for them. I like to share with you if I think I might have a perspective that may fit what’s happening for you, particularly if you’re dealing with behaviors or feelings you’ve felt confused by or ashamed of. So often, there is an explanation that helps take away the sense of blame. (Even though I work to offer some concrete ideas on what might be happening, we still leave lots of room for mystery. Sometimes, we just don’t know right away. And those are moments we get to work together to learn about what’s meaningful for you. The maps we co-construct of what’s happening for you are often the most powerful, and those sometimes happen over several sessions.)
- Humor – A lot of laughter often takes place in sessions with me. There’s often a sense of humor and delight that runs through lots of sessions. I think it’s a sign of the connection that a lot of clients and I share, how we come to laugh easily together. Some sessions are so soft-spoken, and yet, many of even the deepest sessions contain laughter too.
I work with adults, both individuals and couples.
I study new techniques. A lot. This means that, if you saw me a few months ago, my therapy then wasn’t the same as it is now, because I’m always learning new ways to help people.
At the same time, I never stray from my core focus, which is developing a connection with you and helping you to develop more connection with yourself.
- Would you like to work with me as a client? Go to my work with me page.
- Would your organization like to have me give a talk or training? Contact me at 541-224-6732.