Am I the right counselor for you?

  • Work with me from anywhere in the world over Skype or Zoom video
  • See me in person in Corvallis, Oregon.

Not every counselor, not even every good counselor, is the right counselor for you.  It takes resonance, it takes connection. It takes feeling understood and gotten. The people I describe below very often feel “gotten” here from the get-go:

Do any of these sound like you?

  • You are highly sensitive.
  • You are smart, possibly so smart that you can talk yourself out of your feelings and instincts. You may find yourself getting trapped by trying to think your way out of feelings.
  • You feel a lot of shame.
  • You have talked your way through therapy before, but without deep change happening. You have more insight, but the change just doesn’t seem to take root inside. You want something deeper, more interactive, more lasting.
  • You have a lot of compassion for other people, but you have impossibly high expectations of yourself.
  • You have been abandoned or betrayed.
  • You have sometimes doubted your own worth or reality.
  • You dream of doing really cool things, but perfectionism, fear, or shame make it harder to take on new projects, or to finish them.
  • Your close relationships are difficult, and you find yourself struggling to reach out, say no, or to know what you want.
  • Parts of your childhood left you feeling frightened, alone, or unwanted.
  • Did you answer yes to more than three of these questions? (Or answer a very strong yes to even one or two?)

If so, I’d love to meet you. I love working with people like you!  Would you like to meet me? Read these testimonials, all from actual clients in their actual words. Then click here to schedule your consultation.

If you’re needing to get past challenges, get unstuck, honor your sensitivity and smarts, and pursue the life and relationships you really want, I’d like to meet you!

What you can expect from counseling with me

I’ve written about my commitments to you if you do come see me. To find our more of what you can expect from me in our sessions, click here.

Feeling safe in counseling

If it feels scary to come to counseling, you’re not alone! There are strategies that can help you to feel safe enough to take that first step. To find out ways you can both feel and be safe in therapy, check out this article.

What my counseling clients say:

“I can’t believe how much easier it is for me now. I can get through the day without crying. I can go to work. I can talk to people. I haven’t felt this good in a long, long time!”


“I was beyond burnt out on therapy before I met you, and never would have come to see you if we hadn’t met by chance. But I’m so glad I did meet with you, because you changed my idea of therapy, and showed me that I’m not just a ‘set of symptoms,’ and that there are things that can help me. I finally know how to keep my peace instead of going into a rage. I never would have thought this was possible before we met!”


“It’s like there was this sense of being blocked — like concrete in my heart somehow. I can feel the concrete melting now. I’m crying, but with relief this time.”


“I used to feel like I needed other people to take care of me, and I felt so desperate. It was a need that never felt like it eased up, and I had parts inside that wouldn’t work together. Now, it’s like the parts are along with me, and we’re working together. I feel like I can take care of myself now, like I have support from inside.”


“At the end of our work together, I know I’ve come a long way. And I enjoyed our work, too! And I love how many approaches you use, and how you’re always learning new things and bringing them to our work. It kept the work so fluid and dynamic. We did hypnosis, and I had big breakthroughs.  When we used EMDR techniques, that hugely helped me. The therapy that worked with my body helped me to feel a sense of boundaries and  solidity in myself. And your empathy helped me to feel what I was feeling, to stop suppressing my emotions.
My relationships are better. I know what I want, and I can say it. I’m taking care of myself, and all the parts of me are working together.


I know I’m ready to move forward. I was stuck, and you helped me to get unstuck!”


“When I first came to see you, I had an injury that wouldn’t heal and was going to need surgery. After what we did together, it started healing. I just went to the doctor, and not only do I no longer need surgery, I no longer need to wear a cast!”


I feel like you ‘get me’, and you know ways to help me to move through and past things that have been holding me back for a long time. I finally know how to keep my peace instead of going into a rage. I never would have thought this was possible before we met!”


“I know it’s safe in here because your words, your posture, your laugh — they all tell me it’s really okay to bring all of me here. It’s a sense of safety I’ve needed for a long time.”


“I suddenly had this epiphany — this realization — that most people are safe. Most people mean well. I hadn’t felt that before. I’d always been on guard without even knowing it.

I used to be so hard on myself. Now, I can catch myself starting to do that, and I imagine your compassion. Your compassion for me is helping me to be compassionate toward myself, and that changes things for me.”


“My energy is coming back, and I can focus now. With the things I’ve learned, I can settle myself and focus. I’m so much calmer at work, and that’s making my time there much more productive!”

“My boss gave me a piece of feedback, and before, I would have just shut down and felt angry at her — and like a failure inside. This time, I saw her feedback as a true gift, and I was able to take it in and make real improvements. She noticed the difference!”

“My partner and I got into an argument again, but I was able to calm down so much more quickly and speak so that he could hear me. He said this is the first time he’s seen me so at ease, and it’s so much easier for us to talk!”

All these words above are from clients of mine, folks who started out feeling unsure of themselves. Some of them had to work hard to get themselves to therapy! But they did schedule to see me, and they followed through. For some clients, coming to counseling is a leap of faith, or an act of honoring themselves even when they’re not sure yet that they can get better.

See Me in Face-to-Face or Over Skype Video

My counseling office is in downtown Corvallis, Oregon, so I am also within easy reach of Philomath, Albany, Lebanon, Monroe, Monmouth, and the surrounding areas.

And I see clients from around the world via Skype video. See my online counseling page.

I'm ready for practical, interactive counseling!


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Michaela Lonning
260 SW Madison Ave, Suite 104-5
Corvallis Oregon 97333


Author: Michaela Lonning

I'm a counselor in Corvallis, Oregon, and I work mostly with intelligent and sensitive people who are struggling with a sense of connection to themselves or in their relationships. Near Corvallis? Come see me. Not near Corvallis? I work with clients around the world via Skype: Come see me.