- Work with me from anywhere in the world over Skype or Zoom video
- See me in person in Corvallis, Oregon.
Not every counselor, not even every good counselor, is the right counselor for you. It depends partly on the therapist’s skills and even more on compatibility, fit, resonance.
Does this sound like you?
Most of my successful clients have things in common. If you’re like them, I may well be the right counselor for you:
- You are highly sensitive.
- You feel a lot of shame.
- You have talked your way through therapy before, without deep change happening.
- You suspected you were too smart for your other therapists.
- Your other therapists were too nice or too cold.
- You have a lot of compassion for others, but are much harder on yourself.
- You were abandoned or betrayed.
- You have sometimes doubted your own worth or your own reality.
- You dream of doing really cool things, but you have difficulty either taking on new projects or finishing them.
- Your close relationships are still difficult.
- Any of these:
- Parts of your childhood left you feeling frightened, alone, or unwanted.
- You don’t remember much from your childhood.
- Your childhood was fine but you have responses or feelings as if it weren’t.
- You are the rock for others in your life, but no one is your rock.
Did you answer yes to more than three of these questions? (Or answer a very strong yes to even one or two?) If so, I’d love to meet you. I love working with people like you!
If you’re needing to get past challenges, get unstuck, honor your sensitivity and smarts, and pursue the life and relationships you really want, I’d like to meet you!
What it’s like to with me
What my counseling clients say:
“I can’t believe how much easier it is for me now. I can get through the day without crying. I can go to work. I can talk to people. I haven’t felt this good in a long, long time!”
“I was beyond burnt out on therapy before I met you, and never would have come to see you if we hadn’t met by chance. But I’m so glad I did meet with you, because you changed my idea of therapy, and showed me that I’m not just a ‘set of symptoms,’ and that there are things that can help me. I finally know how to keep my peace instead of going into a rage. I never would have thought this was possible before we met!”
“It’s like there was this sense of being blocked — like concrete in my heart somehow. I can feel the concrete melting now. I’m crying, but with relief this time.”
“I used to feel like I needed other people to take care of me, and I felt so desperate. It was a need that never felt like it eased up, and I had parts inside that wouldn’t work together. Now, it’s like the parts are along with me, and we’re working together. I feel like I can take care of myself now, like I have support from inside.”
“At the end of our work together, I know I’ve come a long way. And I enjoyed our work, too! And I love how many approaches you use, and how you’re always learning new things and bringing them to our work. It kept the work so fluid and dynamic. We did hypnosis, and I had big breakthroughs. When we used EMDR techniques, that hugely helped me. The therapy that worked with my body helped me to feel a sense of boundaries and solidity in myself. And your empathy helped me to feel what I was feeling, to stop suppressing my emotions.
My relationships are better. I know what I want, and I can say it. I’m taking care of myself, and all the parts of me are working together.
I know I’m ready to move forward. I was stuck, and you helped me to get unstuck!”
“When I first came to see you, I had an injury that wouldn’t heal and was going to need surgery. After what we did together, it started healing. I just went to the doctor, and not only do I no longer need surgery, I no longer need to wear a cast!”
I feel like you ‘get me’, and you know ways to help me to move through and past things that have been holding me back for a long time. I finally know how to keep my peace instead of going into a rage. I never would have thought this was possible before we met!”
“I know it’s safe in here because your words, your posture, your laugh — they all tell me it’s really okay to bring all of me here. It’s a sense of safety I’ve needed for a long time.”
“I suddenly had this epiphany — this realization — that most people are safe. Most people mean well. I hadn’t felt that before. I’d always been on guard without even knowing it.
I used to be so hard on myself. Now, I can catch myself starting to do that, and I imagine your compassion. Your compassion for me is helping me to be compassionate toward myself, and that changes things for me.”
“My energy is coming back, and I can focus now. With the things I’ve learned, I can settle myself and focus. I’m so much calmer at work, and that’s making my time there much more productive!”
“My boss gave me a piece of feedback, and before, I would have just shut down and felt angry at her — and like a failure inside. This time, I saw her feedback as a true gift, and I was able to take it in and make real improvements. She noticed the difference!”
“My partner and I got into an argument again, but I was able to calm down so much more quickly and speak so that he could hear me. He said this is the first time he’s seen me so at ease, and it’s so much easier for us to talk!”
All these words above are from clients of mine, folks who started out feeling unsure of themselves. Some of them had to work hard to get themselves to therapy! But they did schedule to see me, and they followed through. For some clients, coming to counseling is a leap of faith, or an act of honoring themselves even when they’re not sure yet that they can get better.
See Me in Face-to-Face or Over Internet Video
My counseling office is in downtown Corvallis, Oregon, so I am also within easy reach of Philomath, Albany, Lebanon, Monroe, Monmouth, and the surrounding areas.
And I see clients from around the world via Skype or Zoom video. See my online counseling page.
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260 SW Madison Ave, Suite 104-5
Corvallis Oregon 97333